Sunday, August 02, 2009

Trust and Betrayal

Trust is like a vase.. once it's broken, though you can fix it,
the vase will never be same again.
Author Unknown

There are times when, in my heart, I know something is amiss, something is just not right. My mom calls it a woman's intuition. My friend calls it being overly sensitive or a keen to what is happening around me, and thus being able to see something is not right. I think it's God saying "Knock, knock. This isn't what I want it to be. Be aware."

I tend to trust people and their sincerity. Instead of having a person earn their trustworthiness, I tend to trust them until they prove me wrong. Sometimes it's very apparent when this happens. They do or say something that makes you distrust them immediately - a lie, a word of advice from a loved one, or broken promises.

Sometimes it's subtle. It's looking at what's around me, putting together the pieces, and realizing that someone is not doing right by me. It's that knocking. At times, I hide from the realization, not wanting to believe that the person is doing something to hurt me. Other times, I just know in my gut.

I am not talking about minor hurts. A friend not keeping a date or sharing a secret, a spouse forgetting to take care of a matter that they said they would, a child forgetting to call, a colleague telling a white lie... I'm talking about deception, continuing neglect, behavior that hurts you, and gives the other person an unfair or manipulative advantage, whether it be for pure selfishness, neglect, or betrayal. Since I tend to be trusting, people mistake it for being naive or imperceptive. They think they can get a fast one past me, that I'll never notice, and I'll just go along.

My mom told me to trust these feelings. God gave them to me to protect me from hurts, but it's up to me to decide to ignore the knocking or respond to it. If I don't respond to it, more hurt is likely to follow. If I do respond, either verbally or silently, I am standing up for the truth, what is right, and a chance for healing. As the Word has said, the response should be given with love, patience, and fairly, not intending to hurt the deceiver, but to stop the behavior. Does it really matter if they know you have knowledge of their lack of trustworthiness?

Is God knocking on your heart? If He's knocking, remember, respond as He would want you to respond.


These pickles are easy to make and ready in no time, and they last a long time in the fridge. I usually make bunches, knowing my family will steal a jar or two.

Bread & Butter Pickles - Ready to Eat

7 cups thinly sliced cucumbers
1 cup thinly sliced green peppers
1 cup thinly sliced onion
1 tsp. celery seed
2 tsp. salt

Let stand until juice forms. Do Not Drain.

2 cups sugar
1 cup vinegar

Pour over cucumber mixture. Keep refrigerated.

Aunt Janet's Famous Sayings

When describing someone, the word stupid is not allowed to be said in my house. Everyone who has tried, will know "No one is stupid. They may be ignorant of the facts, or they may have done something that was not right, but they are not stupid."


  1. This is so true, it does not pay to be nice sometimes. Yes being taken for granted is something I cannot live with anymore. God had come knocking some sense into me. I just answered the knock 2 years ago.. A bit slow yeah!

  2. I totally understand. How did you here the knocking?

  3. Ha ha will share in my coming posts. Thanks for following my blog. Will catch u soon!

  4. stupid is like calling someone ugly - and is not allowed in my house either, happy to hear someone else has this rule

    i too assume the good of people first, and am so disappointed when the bad leads that person's ways - i used to take it personally like i was a square peg in a round world and (not having a wonderful mother like yours) it would make me feel so alone and sad

    now i realize that this dark and light banter is part of life, and i am a soldier for the light, whomever He leads me to it is my duty to show the light

    great post, i really like what you have to say about things, peace


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